How Would you Handle the Comment ‘Nice Tits’ in the Workplace?

Woman thumbs up I was talking with a friend at an Investment Bank in Canary Wharf recently, who recounted how one female colleague handled harassment from a male co-worker. When the woman was alone with this chap, he would often remark “Nice Tits” – she would become very embarrassed and flustered (which undoubtedly gave him more power) and did not know what to do. Finally she told her coach about the situation, who made a suggestion that stopped him in his tracks. The next time it happened, she looked him straight in the face and said in a deadpan voice: “Would you repeat that?” it was his turn to become flustered, he left the room and never did it again. She turned the tables on him and sensing that she was not going be bullied any longer without possible larger ramifications, he left her alone. As women in male dominated environments this type of situation occasionally happens and the men often pass it off as simple ‘banter’ and believe you should be able to laugh it off as well. However, as this woman found it can be very embarrassing and hard to deal with. What I really liked about this story was that she didn’t stoop to his level by coming out with an obvious personal response back at him. If you are having this kind of unwanted ‘banter’ aimed at you try this method of response and let me know how it works out.

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  • Margaret Spink

    My question would be: what would her next response have been if he had simply repeated it?

  • http://www.doylemorris.com Suzanne Doyle-Morris

    If he had the audacity to repeat it, I would say “are really sure you want to take it there?” the key is to turn the tables and remind him through your stance and language that you are not going to be cowed any longer.