Not long ago, I ran a workshop entitled “Overcoming Indecision and Getting Unstuck” – one of the key issues for which people come to me for coaching. It sparked great debate and recognition about commonalities between women. One of the main themes to arise from the day was overcoming fear.
Facing Indecision and Underlying Fears
It is the choice of taking a new job, moving to a new city, leaving an industry or even setting up a businesses that leaves many overwhelmed at the prospect of action. Sometimes inaction may arise from an instinctive knowledge that more information is required about your options – get this information, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking that countless pieces of research will make your decision easier. Taking in too much information can sometimes make the decision-making process less clear.
Often the real reason for indecision is fear – which must be addressed if any progress is to be made. The relief expressed by participants that fear was a normal part of growth was reason enough for me to continue to host the workshops – not to mention several of the women contacted me to say they had been inspired to take those leaps since attending.
We discussed fear at length. Fear of failure certainly – but also fear of success. Most people assume fear of failure is the only thing that holds people back, however, in other cases it is a fear of what your life would look like if you actually succeeded which can lead to discomfort. How will those around you react if you fail? How about if you succeed beyond your wildest dreams? What would be different? Who else would be impacted and how might that be affecting you?
In looking at fears, we discussed the “gremlins” we all have – the voice in our head that says “Who do you think you are?” or “You can’t do that” or “They will find out you really don’t know what you are talking about”. With most clients, I find that taking time to name those fears, and also how they may have served us in the past, is the first step towards eradicating them.
How Do Your Gremlins Impact You?
- What does your “Gremlin” say to you?
- What gremlins do you hear amongst friends and family?
- What is your gremlin trying to protect you from? How useful is it now?
- What can you learn from your gremlin?
- How can you use that to move on?
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