On the odd lunch break, I watch a TED video while at my desk. I wanted to point out a video which focuses on spotting lies and their prevalence in our modern society. For any professional woman, understanding the cues to look for in colleagues, bosses, partners and even children is a useful tool. On any given day we’re lied to from 10 to 200 times, and the clues to detect those lies can be subtle and counter-intuitive.
Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting, shows the manners and “hotspots” used by those trained to recognise deception – and she argues honesty is a value worth preserving. She discusses how one in ten interactions between married couples involves a lie. Men are much more likely to lie when talking about themselves whereas women are more likely to lie to protect other people.
The video reminded me how frequently I make judgements based on the facial expressions of people I interact with. Did I leave the meeting with a good feeling or that they were simply meeting me to be seen as caring about the diversity agenda? I think the good news is that we have already been hard-wired to be both uncomfortable lying to other people, but also being able to pick up a ‘bad feeling’ about those who lie to us. Talk about superpowers!