Have you ever been resentful of your boss? Sometimes we feel victimised by employers we blame for poor treatment – oftentimes however, the blame lays with ourselves. One area we can feel resentful is around pay – this is one of the clearest indicators about how we are valued in a team and as we rise through the ranks, it is also one of the areas with the greatest gender disparity. In one of my first jobs after my undergraduate degree, I resented my boss because I was so poorly paid – barely minimum wage for a research job within a major university. My boss thought my work was good – she gave me a great reference but she also knew I was "cheap labour" – a fact she also informally passed on to my next employer with her recommendation. I blamed her for not paying me well, but the truth of the matter is that I accepted a lot less than I was worth, so really the fault lay with myself. Often we can resent those around us for perceived slights when really it is up to us to teach others to treat us and demand more respect, and for too many women, this means more money for our worth which leads to less resentment all around.